What if I could express?

 What if I could express?

What if I could express how I feel,

The anger and rage inside me,

The restrains that’s within me,

The expression cage inside me..

The way I see the world

The way I believe the world 

The good in me 

The bad in me 

I don’t believe if anybody would understand now,

What if I could express?

What if I could express?

What if I could express the love

My caring and compassionate heart

For those who are left behind

For those who fall behind

Poor souls who need a hand

Poor souls being swallowed by the quicksand

Helpless creatures in the wild 

All old, youth and child 

What if I could express?

What if I could express love?

What if I could express my loss?

Of all my dear ones, 

Those who were far and also the near ones,

Those who were close to my soul

Those who received my care

those whom I loved by heart 

Those who I couldn’t think apart

What if I could express love?

Every now and then 

I get this feeling of lost

The expression part of me have been tossed

Tossed somewhere that I’m having hard time to find 

Making myself the expression blind

I want to express and I want to learn 

I cannot see myself being burnt 

The simplicity of expression 

The plasticity of expression 

I want to regain it 

In the long run in life sustain it, 

I miss to express 

I’m having hard time to process,

What if I could express

What if I could express it all? 

Do hashtag trends really work?

To understand hashtag trends, let's understand hashtags first. Hashtag is usually introduced by the number sign or a hash symbol (#), is a type of metadata used in social media platforms like facebook, instagram, twitter and other media services. It is a user generated tagging that helps to find messages with specific theme or content easily. Its the users who creates and use hashtag by placing a hash symbol in front of a word or a phrase which is written without a space.Same hashtag is used by someone else to share views on the topic. There have been a practice of using hashtags to bring people for discussion under same topic, issue and get it in attention of the people to whom it is targeted for. 

Hashtag trends have recently picked up in Nepal too. With more people locked up in home and cannot move freely outside due to ongoing pandemic, social media platforms have been the main show ground for protests, raising concerns and voices. Whether to support someone, to speak agains someone or to ask for justice, hashtags are widely used these days. 

Understanding whether the hashtag works or not can be a topic of debate but it certainly puts a pressure on the government or the targeted body to take action. With the world shifting to online, it cannot be ignored that there are people on the internet who care about what happens around them. For a situation like we are facing these days because of COVID, it should be taken more seriously as hashtags are the most safest and convenient way of raising voice and concerns.  

For a developing country like nepal, hashtags trends seem to be less significant but it should be the government willing understand the seriousness and to embrace the changing society. Hashtags have made easier for people living abroad to support on the cause happening in their home country. people being more busy with work and life, no one should be forced to come to street to raise concerns.  It should be heard before matters get serious. Demonstration on streets may be comparatively powerful but hashtag trends shows people care and raise voices without being on streets. They care about the things that are affecting the society. These trends may not cause a lot of damage to attract attention, but it is the concerned authority that need to remain alert. 

Personality and Social media

Like our fingerprints, our personality is also unique. Though one can argue that we can deduce someone’s personality by observing behaviour which can be true to some extent. However, there hasn’t been any technology developed or any research been done to understand a human as a whole. Since we can fake behaviour, even unknowingly, an in-depth personality cannot be deduced by observing behaviour pattern. There are much more things going inside a human brain which are significantly important and are difficult to be mapped.

 

Social media and internet are elements of revolution of this century. The access to information and the connection we have been able to achieve are astonishing. With this revolution, we have dragged some negative behaviours along with it and these behaviours are certain to be a social media culture of future if no actions are taken today. We see these actions of sharing news, views and ideas as a granted elements on internet but it’s clear that we are not able to understand the seriousness of these actions.

 

How can sharing news and views be bad? If you see as a whole, well it’s a good action and maybe finding a bad consequence is not that easy. However, if we look deep into it, this small act can be a bad culture for future. An example can be, A person shares a post about a dog getting beaten by a person, badly injuring the dog and with a caption stating “humans are cruel. Let’s fight for cruelty “.  It is a good message that is being passed on but wait, has the action of person sharing the post have changed? No. The person sharing the post throws water on dogs on the middle of night for barking in front of his home in the middle of winter. The same person throws away his leftover when the dog outside roams the community to find food for its puppies. The man doesn’t care if the stray dog population in his community is increasing and actually he hasn’t ever thought about dogs this much, but he is not heisting to share human cruelty on the poor animal. Well the post is heartbreaking, which is understandable but are you changing the attitude of yourself towards these things. It is not just about animal cruelty, there are a lot of things where we show our soft part but, have we realised that the social media culture may be making us a hypocrite?

 

 

So, where does this personality things come into play? It is right there every time. We are sensitive to lot of things that happen around. In fact, if you scroll thought your Facebook newsfeed all day you will find thousands of things you get embarrassed about and thousands of things that you will be happy about. It depends on your sensitive personality that you might even share a few things in your timeline. This is what needs to be focused on. There are people who give opinions and just aren’t the part of your life and there are people who are genuine in giving constructive feedback on your action. Whatsoever you are the person who make primary decision for yourself. This article can raise a question within you but its again up to you to decide what the best for you is. Writing posts, sharing ideas are not bad, but the significance content matters. It is equally important to ensure that the quality of the things you share aligns with your values.

 

It is us who make things worse and its us who make things better as well. News, views and ideas are to be shared if they are worth sharing but sharing is not enough. Sharing something doesn’t just mean you have done your part, its you who too needs to take some action on your level. It’s you, your personality that needs to show changes and that can be in your own way. Fake personality will not work all the time and definitely you will be in a loss in the long run.

पाउँदिन

 खुसी आउँथ्यो होला साथमा, म ल्याउन पाउँदिन

यस्पाली पनि सुख्खा दशैँ , म आउन पाउँदिन

हर्षो उल्लास गाउँ घरमा, साथी भाई जम्मा होलान् 

हेर्ने ईच्छा भएपनि, म च्याउन पाउँदिन 

हालियो होला लिंग पिंग, सबैले झड्कार्दाहुन् मच्चाएर

हरेक साल हाल्ने पिंगको काम्रो, म ख्याउन पाउँदिन

उ हो मेरो साथी

हाँस्ने बेला सँगै हाँस्ने, दुखको बेला दुख बाँढ्ने

मनको कुरा फ्याट्ट बुझ्ने, उ हो मेरो साथी 

केही दिन पछिको भेट हुँदा होस्, भेट्न जाँदा थोरै लेट हुँदा होस्

खिस्स हाँसेर दाँत देखाउने, उ हो मेरो साथी

संकटमा पर्दा सल्लाह दिने, चुप लाग भन्दा हल्ला गर्दिने 

उत्पट्यान्ग काममा माहिर जो, उ हो मेरो साथी

खल्ती रित्तिदाँ सापटी दिने, सापटी देको चाहीँ फिर्ता नदिने

अच्चम्मको बैंक हो जो, उ हो मेरो साथी

आफ्नी रानी सँग घुम्न जाने, रेस्टुरेन्टमा के के हो के के खाने

केही ऩाखाई सुत्छु म आज  भन्ने,, उ हो मेरो साथी

केटी सँग देखे गिज्याउने, सिंगल भइस भन्दै खिज्याउनेॉं

सयौं साथीको लभ गुरु, उ हो मेरो साथी

प्राय काम सँगै गर्ने, कुरा भावना आदानप्रदान गर्ने

मिठ्ठो सम्बन्ध जो सँग छ मेरो, उ हो मेरो साथी 

CRY

Deep down me There is a boy

He is almost like me, he loves to enjoy

The greatest gift he has is, that he can cry

I tried to do the same but, my eyes are arid dry

 

 

Sometimes I ask myself, why cannot I cry? 

The answers is my upbringing, that I cannot justify

Some think that I’m heartless, some think I am mean

Understand me dear, this is not what I always had been

 

My grandpa had always taught me, crying is not for boys

So suppressing my tears , became my choice 

My granny always told me, crying makes a boy weak

So I trained my eyes, not to react quick 

 

As I was growing up, there came my friends 

And they too never cried, they were well trained 

When I look back  at my school life, there used to be a boy 

Crying was a part of him but there were moments of joy

 

My father wanted me to be strong, to be a man 

Well certainly in his advices, crying was a total ban 

Mother was a bit sensitive, she heard my inner voice

She too didn’t want to see me being “so called” weak, she wanted me to rejoice 

 

My brother is fierce, thinks crying is for babies 

Who knows what he has suppressed deep within, there could be something... maybe 

Well there comes my sister, crying once in a while 

To persuade father to do what she wants, we thought it’s her style 

 

What I think as a grown up is, crying isn’t just the tears 

I believe it’s a way to get rid of, the inner fears

science proves that it’s a way of boosting up your mood 

Self soothing isn’t just a benefit, for eyes too crying is good

 

I know all these things, I know them by heart 

Today I realise knowledge is not the only thing,  to make you smart

I feel the pain, I try to cry 

No matter how much it hurts, my eyes are desert dry

What will THEY think!

“What will they think?” Have you ever asked this question to yourself? 

If yes then welcome to the team, we have something in common.

Even if its a "No", welcome, its important to understand it for you as well.

 

“What will they think?” is a significant question if you are constantly asking yourself while you do things that other will eventually see or analyse. It’s also a question which makes people like me step back while trying to change.  Change in a sense like " coming out of comfort zone, speaking up, being noticed, changing clothing style, thinking different and so on". But asking this question time and again makes the question more powerful obstacle for your step towards change if you are not able to answer them yourself. It has that ability to develop fear for those who do not get right motivation and direction. Eventually a short and simple question becomes complex and a factor in life that holds back creativity, expression and emotion of a person.

 

Well, if the question is self damaging,

Should I avoid asking it to myself?

The answer is “No”. While writing this piece of opinion, I realised that if I stop asking this question to myself, it means I am avoiding something that gives answer and directs me to be a better person. To put it more concisely and clearly, thinking about my action and its consequence on others is always important. Undoubtedly, no matter what you do, people are going to have their own opinion on your action, while at times, opinion matters. In those situations, positive opinions should be taken as motivation and the negative opinions should be taken as lesson if needed.

 

Now putting things into perspective, questing oneself for actions that you do for is correct. I do it all the time. Even after something has happened, I question myself if I did right thing. If things are reversible, I change my decision to go for a change of action. But sometimes, I regret. I regret for stepping back. When I think deeply, it feels like I am holding up my true self. Just assuming what other will think, I get scared to reveal my actual beliefs. In contrast to that, asking same question makes me realise that I am making mistakes. Maybe the state of mind also determines what is good and what is not at situations but actively seeking answers for questions within yourself is necessary. It helps to build a positive environment within which you can satisfy yourself.

 

After all, its important to understand that having feelings and letting the feelings take over yourself means restraining yourself to command yourself. You cannot reach a destination until you start to move. If we have command on self, opinion of others should not restrict on having a life we desire. Positive motivation is always carrying you forward.